so many things have change
Friday, January 03, 2014
things have change but people?
I think I have changed. I am glad it's for the better.. *grin*
2013 have been great.
- I got married to a great guy. he's not rich but he got the heart and treat me like a little queen :P
Marriage is for life and I hope we can make this last because no one knows what the future holds.
constantly creating the sparks and communication is key.
I never thought I would meet the one.
I had all these "standards" and "hygiene" like the guy cannot have BO, bad breath, snoring etc.
Keith have fulfilled them all. hope he maintains this way.
we will work hard together for our future. YEA!
- I got pregnant. yeaps, it's true. I am going to be a mother *gasps*
I am truly blessed to be given this gift from God. only he can create life.
it wasn't planned for but it just happen and I am glad :)
it's been 7 and a half months this pregnancy journey and it's been great.
I feel her little movements and big kicks in my belly... so miraculous and I am enjoying every moment.
I think I should record my pregnancy journey else I forget like my mum.
I asked her and she's like "so many years ago already, I forget"
My pregnancy started as a SHOCK.
I did not realised I was pregnant until i missed my menses for a week.
I felt normal except my stomach was not bloated. usually, before menses, my stomach will bloat out (not as if i have no tummy.)
so ok, I tested the pregnancy kit and it's POSITIVE.
i didn't believe it so i went to the doc. POSITIVE AGAIN. they took test kit to do it. -.-"
ok took folic acid then i had a bali trip upcoming.
at that time, I was lost and confused.
Should we get married? what if he don't want? can i take on this burden to be a single mum?
what is abortion like? how my parents feel? do we have the money to buy house and marry?
do i love this guy to spend the rest of my life with ? does he love me? will i regret?
what will happen if this kid grow up in a single parent family?
so many questions with no answers.
we decided to have a H2H talk about this.
he asked me 3 questions:
- Do I want to marry him?
- Am I ready to be a mum?
- How much do I want this?
he's a logical and practical person so he need these answers before he can make a decision.
well, to put the story short. the journey was great. we just ROM-ed first in TCC@keppel bay and decided we will put the banquet and customary on hold first till I give birth.
we bought our EC house all within a month in August which is ready by May 2016
we went to Bali and I drank alcohol (the last touch) and played in waterbom park in Kuta, Bali. took exciting water rides.. really fun! actually I was so "gung ho" as by right first trim, should be very careful else miscarry.
I had so much faith in God that this baby is meant to be and NOTHING not even the devil can take this baby away from us :)
"You shall serve the Lord your God, and he[a] will bless your bread and your water, and I will take sickness away from among you. 26 None shall miscarry or be barren in your land; I will fulfill the number of your days." - Exodus 23:25 to 26
my GOD is here protecting me and my baby... forever and for the rest of our days together :)
First trimester was smooth. I had good appetite and no morning sickness.. just nausea feeling all the time.
the only sad thing is I cannot drink or eat my fave sashimi :(
I ate one time and drank one time because my friend say as long as it's fresh, it's ok to take a few! but gosh, i felt so guilty after that.
I drank so much milk. 2 cartons every week - Marigold low fat, hi cal with DHA omega 3 is LOVE! yums
I tried taking supplements but the tablets are too big for me to swallow and I vomited them out therefore, I decided to do without them even when I used a cutter.
It is a joy to go gynae and see the little heartbeat growing inside me.
the joys of being pregnant is unexplainable.
I see her growing week by week makes it all worth it.
2nd trim was rather smooth sailing too.
Though I had nasty yeast infection that has form to a culture. it was afraid it will be strep B which is more complicated and will affect the baby.
I was also really tired. sleepy and having spinning headaches from time to time.
boobs got bigger, tummy getting heavier and rounder.
I was garnering for a boy but it turn out to be a girl! my hubby is happy :)
I wish for a healthy baby most importantly.
my OSCAR test was 1/555 probability and 555 represents grace! Praise the Lord!
this girl is rather active.
kicking, jabbing, turning, tossing, somersaulting I am sure.
I already love her before I met her like the savage garden song, "I knew I loved you before I met you"
Other things I felt during pregnancy is I was dropping hair and also feeling constipated. I tried eating fruits but still constipated until I get piles :(
got this lump at my anus but it's harmless so just putting moisturizer on it.
I also got flashes of ezcema on my face and scalp.
as you can see, if you read till here. I am trying to be as detailed as possible so next time can use it as a reference :)
good thing is i didn't put on much weight. the start of my pregnancy, I was 46.5kg and now I am 53.8kg.
my 2nd trim.. I didn't have much cravings or appetite. really weird unlike the rest.
so my friends told me, if they didn't see my belly, they wouldn't guessed I am pregnant.
my tummy is also not as big as my friend's wife who had her navel button sticking out already.
Moving onto 3rd trim now!
the first day of 3rd trim - horror thing happened! in the early morning, I feel liquid trickling down my legs.
I woke up at 9am in horror. I was bleeding and I rush to the toilet and wanted to pee but pee out chunks of blood. I was shivering. I hope my baby is ok. I prayed to GOD.
the night before, I felt my baby kicking vigorously. I wonder what happen so I went to c my gynae straight away and was still bleeding. when i took out my undergarment with my pad, the blood flow out like water tap on the gynae table below.
I knew it was my placenta - the life source for my baby.
I had placenta previa (major) and like the gynae say, it's like a seed planted - u will never know where the "Seed" will be planted.
I can rely on my GOD for this healing.
In his stripes, I am healed!
so I was admitted to hospital in thomson medical centre for 2 nights in a 2 bedder room.
My hubby stayed by my side until he gotta go off for running errands as his sister was getting married the following day.
i was still bleeding but not as much as before. I tried to pass motion but exert force so I bled more.
I just continue to relax... and was told to bed rest and no unnecessary movements.
after discharging from hospital, I still went to my sis-in-law wedding on 29 Dec but unable to go meet my friends for NYE countdown :( I was upset because every year, I was there until this year.
my hubby did not allow me to go because it's too big a risk.
nevertheless, it's been a week now - I am on hospitalisation leave and cheers to 2014!
15 march - my EDD and I can't wait to see my little one.
it's going to be a great journey in 2014 - parenthood, motherhood and babyhood.
I am going to go thru C-sect and may GOD give me the strength and courage with a smooth delivery as he has delivered me from my transgressions.
all glory to almighty GOD, my father, my abba.. my jehovah jireh, my shalom peace... and everything that had me whole and bring me to where I am today.
Labels: 2014, happy me, love, marriage, pregnant, relationships
A rainbow to end my day
5:12 PM
the secrets to a good relationship
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
The Secrets of a Good Relationship
got it from creampuff
timirose:
Whether you’re in love or not, I think this could be applicable to any kind of relationship: family, friends, significant other. It’s a good read.
TRUST
Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, “Public Utilities Board.” There was silence. She repeated, “PUB.” There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady’s voice, “Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband’s pocket but I do not know whose number it is.”
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just “hello” instead of “PUB”…
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, “Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?” The father-in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.”
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.
This is the start of a war.
We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested “I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.” The SDU officer said, “Your requirements, please.” “Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home, during my leisure hour & if I don’t go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.”
The officer listened carefully and replied, “I understand you need television.”
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses.
The nightmare begins.
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.
Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.” It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.”
Many relationships break off because of wrong speech.
When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site.
A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, “Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.” On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, “Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.” She answered, “You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you.”
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison.
A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, “Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? “Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them.
Later, an old man saw it and commented, “The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?” Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, “How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.” The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, “Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.” Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled.
They lost their balance and fell into the river.
You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.
BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy’s hands into pulp as punishment.
When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, “Daddy, I’m sorry about your truck.” Then he asked, “but when are my fingers going to grow back?”
The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you wish to take revenge.
Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love.
Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can’t. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.Labels: relationships
A rainbow to end my day
12:42 AM
